Sunday, 28 August 2016

Accepting Me For Me

I’ve learnt to accept that I probably won’t ever feel or be ‘perfect’ and hey, I’m finally okay with that and you should be too! I think every female struggles with insecurities regarding their appearance at some point in their lives. We all have good days and bad days but here are the reasons why I’m starting to feel more confident about the way I look…

  • I’ve learnt to dress for my figure. I am very top heavy with a large bust and a small waist but then my bum and belly stick out a bit. I find high wasted jeans/skirts are great for my figure. So are peplum and skater style dresses. I also tend to wear a lot of black as it’s very flattering.

  • I can eat all the food I want to. I don’t want to go through life limiting what I eat just to get the perfect figure. If you’re an avid reader of my blog and follow me on social media, you will know that I am a foodie and a 3 course meal at an amazing Italian restaurant is my idea of heaven. 

  • I don’t want to put pressure on myself to go to the gym as then I won’t enjoy it. I joined a gym last month and have loved going but I don’t beat myself up when I miss a day. It’s great to get your blood flowing and release some healthy endorphins but I don’t feel I NEED to go, I go because I want to.

  • My boyfriend finds me sexy and that’s what matters to me. He sees my lumps and bumps and sees past them which is the best confidence boost I could ever get. He loves me for me so I love me too.

  • My make-up. I’ve mentioned that I have several chicken pox scars on my face before due to getting the nasty virus older in life at the age of 14 years old. (It really is worse with age!) I was sick for weeks with it and ended up being left with loads of scars, the majority of which are on my face due to my ridiculously sensitive skin. My make-up makes me feel better about my scars. I used to feel very self-conscious about them as I never got acne and always had perfect skin but make-up helps me to feel confident and pretty.

  • I wear a smile as much as I possibly can. It really does get you a long way. If you’re friendly and approachable life becomes so much easier. You get further, you gain more friends, and life just seems to fall into place when you start taking things less seriously.

  • Above all, I just don’t care who judges my appearance. I feel confident enough to rock my body, lumps and bumps and all.

What helps you to feel confident and sexy? I’d love to know in the comments below. 

Love Amber x


  1. I love this post. Sometimes I feel really down about myself, but try to focus on something I like about myself, like my eyes or my cheekbones... and my boobs - the one advantage of being heavier than I'd like at the moment is that the girls are looking particularly good, haha! Also, I guess I look to the non-physical parts of myself too - I like to think I'm pretty funny and I have a decent level of intelligence and am a good person... and they're all elements of me that are more important than how I look. Most of the time anyway. ;-)


  2. That's lovely to hear Paula. Tell me about it, though I've always had a large bust, even when I was slimmer! They're great until you want to wear strapless dresses and they seem to have a mind of their own...

    The non-physical parts of you are definitely important too, being true to yourself certainly contributes to confidence.

    Love Amber x


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